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Saturday, July 30, 2016

Mothers and Their Babies

Mothers and Their Babies
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The Remarkable Bond
Between the Mother and her Baby
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9 Months In The Womb
A Remarkable Look At Fetal Development
Through Ultrasound 
By PregnancyChat.com


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Wednesday, July 27, 2016

Broadway - What The World Needs Now Is Love DNC

Broadway
40-Plus Broadway Stars Perform
"What the World Needs Now Is Love"
Democratic National Convention


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More than 40 performers lined the stage in Philadelphia to sing the song, which was recorded to honor the victims from the Orlando nightclub massacre in June.

Proceeds from the tune benefit the LGBT Center of Central Florida.

Kristen Bell, Idina Menzel, Audra McDonald, Brian Stokes Mitchell, Debra Messing, Rosie Perez, Darren Criss, Tyne Daly, Sharon Gless, Sia, Jesse Ferguson, Connie Britton and many, many more Broadway stars performed an emotional version of "What the World Needs Now Is Love" at the Democratic Convention

The performance follows a day of speeches centered on the theme of gun control reform, with speakers including Lee Daniels, Angela Bassett and survivors of the Orlando nightclub shooting taking the stage to stand behind Hillary Clinton.

Daniels told the crowd, "We need to take action, and we need to take action now," stating his support of Hillary Clinton. "There's only one candidate willing to take on the gun lobby and keep our families safe."

The Broadway performance had the crowd in Philadelphia on their feet singing along, concluding with a loud "Love trumps hate" chant in the audience.


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Tuesday, July 26, 2016

Our Fight Song - D N C

Our Fight Song
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Elizabeth Banks produced an awesome new video featuring a ton of celebs singing Rachel Platten‘s “Fight Song” to support Democratic presidential nominee Hillary Clinton.
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Some of the celebs featured in the video are:
Former Wicked co-stars Kristin Chenoweth and Idina Menzel, Mandy Moore, Jane Fonda, Jaime King, Connie Britton, the cast of Pitch Perfect,  Some of the celebs featured in the video are former Wicked co-stars Kristin Chenoweth and Idina Menzel, Mandy Moore, Jane Fonda, Jaime King, Connie Britton, the cast of Pitch Perfect,  Eva Longoria, Aisha Tyler, Connie Britton,  Alan Cumming, Jesse Tyler Ferguson, Ben Platt, and Billy Porter and Rachel herself!

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Thursday, July 21, 2016

These Women Tried Breaking the ‘Highest Glass Ceiling’

Before Hillary Clinton
These Women Tried Breaking the
 ‘Highest Glass Ceiling’
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The overlooked history of women running for president

Published on Apr 12, 2016

With Hillary Clinton as front-runner for the Democratic nomination, the possibility of a female president is closer than ever. But Clinton is far from the first woman to shoot for the Oval Office. In her new book, “The Highest Glass Ceiling,” author Ellen Fitzpatrick charts the history of female presidential candidates and the odds they battled. Judy Woodruff talks to Fitzpatrick to learn more.


In The Highest Glass Ceiling, best-selling historian Ellen Fitzpatrick tells the story of three remarkable women who set their sights on the American presidency. Victoria Woodhull (1872), Margaret Chase Smith (1964), and Shirley Chisholm (1972) each challenged persistent barriers confronted by women presidential candidates. Their quest illuminates today’s political landscape, showing that Hillary Clinton’s 2016 campaign belongs to a much longer, arduous, and dramatic journey.

The tale begins during Reconstruction when the radical Woodhull became the first woman to seek the presidency. Although women could not yet vote, Woodhull boldly staked her claim to the White House, believing she might thereby advance women’s equality. 
Republican Senator Margaret Chase Smith came into political office through the “widow’s mandate.” Among the most admired women in public life when she launched her 1964 campaign, she soon confronted prejudice that she was too old (at 66) and too female to be a creditable presidential candidate. She nonetheless became the first woman to have her name placed in nomination for President by a major party. 
Democratic Congresswoman Shirley Chisholm ignored what some openly described as the twin disqualifications of race and gender in her spirited 1972 presidential campaign. She ran all the way to the Democratic convention, inspiring diverse followers and angering opponents, including members of the Nixon administration who sought to derail her candidacy.

As The Highest Glass Ceiling reveals, women’s pursuit of the Oval Office, then and now, has involved myriad forms of influence, opposition, and intrigue.
The Long, Hard Fight
To Finally Get A Woman

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

Fake Melania Trump Offers Hilarious Defense


Fake Melania Trump
Offers Hilarious Defense of RNC Speech

Melania Trump
Did Not Plagiarize Her RNC Speech
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 Stephen Colbert opened his second live show of the week by addressing the big controversy to come out of the Republican National Convention’s first night. As Colbert soberly told his viewers: Melania Trump has been accused of plagiarizing portions of a speech First Lady Michelle Obama gave at the 2008 Democratic National Convention.




Did the 2016 election season just find its Tina Fey?

Actress/singer Laura Benanti nailed the part of Melania Trump on “The Late Show With Stephen Colbert” on Tuesday night, offering a comically inept defense against accusations of plagiarism. 

In making her point, she then plagiarized everyone from Charles Dickens to Dr. Seuss to a McDonald’s commercial. 

Check it out in the clip above, and see if you don’t start ba-da-ba-ba lovin’ it.


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Sunday, July 17, 2016

Florence Foster Jenkins

Florence Foster Jenkins
​Meryl Streep on Playing
The World's Worst Singer



CBS News July 17, 2016


The summer screen is about to be graced by a superb actress in the role of a not-so-superb singer. The actress is Meryl Streep, and she's been talking to Anthony Mason:

Florence Foster Jenkins didn't make many recordings, but they had to be heard to be believed:

"We heard them at drama school, when I was a student," said Meryl Streep. "Yeah, it was pretty specifically great!"

Streep plays Lady Florence, as she liked to be called, in the new film, "Florence Foster Jenkins," about the amateur soprano often called the world's worst opera singer. "Most of her notes," as one critic put it, "were promissory."

Mason said, "So many of the great singers of her time are not remembered, but she is."

"Well, that's a tragedy, actually!" Streep laughed.

By the late 1930s, Florence's performances were notorious.

Mystifyingly, the society pages indulged her with glowing notices. "Madame Jenkins' annual recitals," the New York Daily Mirror wrote, "bring unbounded joy to the faded souls of Park Avenue and the musical elite." Composer Cole Porter was a fan.

And astonishingly, at the peak of her notoriety in 1944, Florence took the stage at Carnegie Hall and performed to a sold-out house.

Gino Francesconi, director of the archives and Rose Museum at Carnegie Hall, says it's still one of their most-requested programs. ("I think she picked up the phone and said, 'I'm booking myself here," Francesconi said.)

To hear an original Florence Foster Jenkins recording click on the player below.



The daughter of a prominent banker from Wilkes Barre, Pennsylvania, Florence inherited a million-dollar fortune from her father. After moving to New York, she ascended society by joining dozens of women's social clubs.

Valerie Paley, chief historian of the New York Historical Society, described it as a time "when women are coming into their own in terms of empowerment, in terms of civic engagement. And all of this sort of begins in the clubs."

Paley says between the wars, New York grew to a city of five million people - 4,000 of them millionaires like Florence.

"She wasn't sort of a Harriman or an Astor or a Vanderbilt" Paley said. "I would say she was somewhere between that and the Bohemians of Greenwich Village. She had a very quirky sensibility. She certainly had great confidence in herself, which was part of her charm."

"She did an immense amount of charity work," noted documentarian Donald Collup. He says Florence also organized elaborate musical programs for her women's societies, including one she founded herself, the Verdi Club. "There was one event yearly, it was called the Bluebird Supper Dance," Collup said. "And it was just a charity to provide flowers for ill members."

A piano prodigy as a child, Florence had gone to music school in Philadelphia. As a singer, Collup said, from the beginning she was "probably less than mediocre."

Florence is believed to have contracted syphilis from her first husband -- mistakenly treated, in those days, with injections of mercury.

"It affected her hearing," Collup said. "More than likely, she had tinnitus, which is a constant hum in the head. In those days it was called 'the serenading of angels.' And it prevented her from singing in tune."

But it didn't stop her.
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Mason asked Streep, "How hard a work is it to sing that badly?"

"In studying how she sang, it was not how bad she was, but how close she came to getting the note until the absolute last minutes, and then it would just, oh, fail miserably. But you were with her all the way. You thought, 'Oh, maybe this time it'll work! Maybe this time, I'll be lucky.'"

In 1944, at the age of 76, Florence decided she was ready for Carnegie Hall.

Her longtime companion, actor St. Clair Bayfield (played by Hugh Grant), often acted as her producer.

"Singing at Carnegie Hall is her dream," Bayfield said. "And I'm going to give it to her."

Was Streep nervous when she had to sing like Florence? "Oh yes. Stephen Frears, our director, I begged him to shoot the audience first, because I knew they would never hear it again the same way ... to shoot them hearing it, and so the reactions would be real. Really horrified!"

During filming, a London theatre stood in for Carnegie Hall. But Streep gave an entire performance as Lady Florence: "It's all there in the DVD extras, if you can bear it!"

Then, Collup noted, when the reviews came out, Bayfield said Jenkins was crushed: "She had not known, you see."

New York Post columnist Earl Wilson called it "one of the weirdest mass jokes New York has ever seen."

Her story offered two responses: The Earl Wilson take ("Who is she fooling? This is ridiculous"), and the opposite, as Streep expressed: "'Oh, God love her, this is fabulous. Let's let her go. What's next? What's next? Oh my God!' I think there was that."

A month and a day after her Carnegie Hall appearance, Florence Foster Jenkins died. And she might have been long been forgotten, if not for those recordings -- 78 rpm acetates, made at Melotone Studios.

"It was a vanity recording company," Collups aid. "It was originally meant for a Christmas gift for members of her club."

But they became such a cult hit, RCA bought the recordings in 1954, and they've never been out of print.

"When RCA issued it as an LP, it was called 'The Glory ????? of the Human Voice'" Collup noted.

As Lady Forence herself is said to have remarked: "Some may say that I couldn't sing. But no one can say that I didn't sing."


To watch a trailer for "Florence Foster Jenkins" 
click on the video player below.

Watch the movie trailer for Florence Foster Jenkins, starring Meryl Streep and Hugh Grant! Florence Foster Jenkins is coming to theatres August 12, 2016.

Set in 1940s New York, Florence Foster Jenkins is the true story of the legendary New York heiress and socialite (Meryl Streep) who obsessively pursued her dream of becoming a great singer. The voice she heard in her head was beautiful, but to everyone else it was hilariously awful. Her "husband" and manager, St. Clair Bayfield (Hugh Grant), an aristocratic English actor, was determined to protect his beloved Florence from the truth. But when Florence decided to give a public concert at Carnegie Hall, St. Clair knew he faced his greatest challenge.

Starring: Meryl Streep, Hugh Grant, Simon Helberg, Rebecca Ferguson, Nina Arianda
Director: Stephen Frears
Writer: Nicholas Martin


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Thursday, July 14, 2016

Expiration dates on food are basically useless.

You’re Probably Throwing Away
‘Expired’ Food
That’s Totally Fine To Eat
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Expiration dates on food are basically useless.

07/14/2016 - Casey Williams

The date on your carton of milk may be less helpful than you think.

It’s breakfast time. You pull a carton of milk out of the fridge, excited for a bowl of delicious cereal. But to your horror, you notice your milk has expired.

What do you do?

Maybe you sniff it, take a swig. Maybe you toss it.

Either way, you probably shouldn’t worry too much about what the date on the carton says. In the U.S., date labels are generally terrible at telling people when their food will become unsafe to consume, some experts say.

That could change soon, however. Advocacy groups like environmental nonprofit Feedback are pushing food producers to replace confusing labels with clearer date markers. In addition, recently proposed federal legislation would standardize date labeling across the country. Both efforts aim to replace the current date labeling system with two labels: one for quality (”best if used by”) and one for safety (”expires on”).

Up to 40 percent of the U.S. food supply goes uneaten every year, according to a widely cited 2009 study of food waste. Nearly 20 percent of food waste in people’s homes is caused by the confusing date labeling system, according to Niki Charalampopoulou, managing director of Feedback. Simply making date labels easier to understand would avoid 398,000 tons of wasted food every year, one study found.

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Proponents of clearer date labels say they’re a much needed mend to a food system that churns out gobs of waste. Fixing date labels is the “low-hanging fruit” in the fight to eliminate wasted food, Dominika Jarosz, a campaign manager at Feedback, told The Huffington Post. “It’s a relatively simple fix and it would have a massive impact,” she said.

There’s a welter of labels out there (”sell by,” “use by,” “best before,” “expires on,” “enjoy by,” etc.). None of them are regulated by the federal government, and few actually indicate when consuming something poses a threat to your health.

In general, food producers get to come up with their own date labels based on when they think their products will go bad or lose their freshness. Some states have laws requiring food producers to put date labels on their products, but the rules vary from state to state. The result is a patchwork labeling system that can leave consumers perplexed, according to Emily Broad Leib, director of the Food Law and Policy Clinic at Harvard University.

Some state food labeling laws “just say there can be any date label and it just has to appear on certain foods,” Broad Leib told HuffPost. “It’s still up to the manufacturer to set those dates.”

“Some companies say, ‘We literally just pick a date out of thin air,’” she added.

In early 2016, the Harvard Food Law and Policy Clinic produced a (surprisingly dramatic) video, seen below, explaining the problems with confusing date labels. 


EXPIRED?
Food Waste in America from Racing Horse Productions on Vimeo.

Confusing and inconsistent labeling can baffle shoppers. Less than half of people surveyed for one study knew the difference between “sell by” and “use by” dates (for the record: “sell by” is for grocers, and “use by” usually tells shoppers when food is freshest). Over a third of consumers said they always throw out food close to or past its expiration date, and nearly 90 percent said they do so occasionally, according to a survey from Harvard’s Food Law and Policy Clinic.

In general, people tend to wrongly assume that date labels indicating a food’s freshness (like “best before”) are telling them when their food will no longer be safe to eat. That can cause people to needlessly toss food that’s a little old.

The worst that happens if you eat something spoiled is it doesn’t taste good and you’re like, ‘That was gross.’ Emily Broad Leib, Harvard Food Law and Policy Clinic

The vast majority of food is safe to eat even after it passes the date on the label, Broad Leib said. “The worst that happens if you eat something spoiled is it doesn’t taste good and you’re like, ‘That was gross,’” she added. “But we’re starting to realize we only prioritize safety and we draw a halo around safety — then we end up throwing away food.”

While experts say boiling expiration labels down into two easy-to-understand dates would help reduce waste, making labels clearer isn’t going to solve the country’s massive food waste problem on its own, Broad Leib said.

“I don’t think it’s the silver bullet where if we address this one issue we’re going to eliminate the problem,” Broad Leib said. “If this is going to work we’re going to have to do a lot of education.”

So let’s start now. That milk from earlier, it’s almost certainly OK to drink.

“It’s actually fine to consume milk sometimes two weeks after it has expired,” Feedback’s Charalampopoulou said. Besides, she added, “your senses are the best guide.”

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Pingree’s Food Recovery Act.
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Wednesday, July 13, 2016

Death of Pet can Hurt as Much as The Loss of a Relative

The Death of Pet can Hurt
as Much as
The Loss of a Relative
By Joe Yonan March 26, 2012.

It’s been four months, and yet if somebody asks me about that day, my voice will crack. By “that day,” I mean the day I came home from work to find my Doberman, Red, splayed out on my bedroom floor, his head to one side, his body lifeless but still warm. It’s an image I can’t seem to shake, as much as I try.

I’m no stranger to death. I was a mess of anger and confusion when my father, suffering the aftermath of a stroke, took his last gasps one day in 1995, his children gathered around his hospital bed. And three years later, the death of my sweet, beloved sister Bonny after a withering battle with brain cancer was nothing short of heartbreaking. Yet somehow, and much to my distress, the death of my dog seems even harder. 

I haven’t felt grief quite like this since, well, the death of my previous dog five years ago.

How could the death of a canine possibly hurt as much as that of a family member? As the sadness lingers, part of my grieving process has been to try to understand the differences.

Researchers have long known that the animal-human bond is strong: A 1988 study in the Journal of Mental Health Counseling asked a group of dog owners to place symbols for their family members and pets in a circle representing each dog owner’s life. (The distance between the subject and the other symbols corresponds to the relative, real-life closeness of those relationships.) The subjects tended to put the dog closer than the average family member, and about as close as the closest family member; in 38 percent of the cases, the dog was closest of all.

Research comparing grief over the death of pets to that over the death of friends and family members has come up with different answers. A 2002 article in the journal Society & Animals that reviewed multiple studies found that the death of a companion animal can be “just as devastating as the loss of a human significant other,” not quite as severe, “far more intense” or, well, just about the same.

Sandra Barker, the director of the Center for Human-Animal Interaction at Virginia Commonwealth University, who co-authored the 1988 diagram study, counsels grieving pet owners and teaches veterinary students the importance of understanding the process. Studies aside, her own experience has taught her that the intensity and longevity of the grief vary widely. Like me, her clients sometimes begin the process with a sense of surprise and even shame that they’re grieving more for their pet than for a sibling or parent.

“But when they realize that the difference is the pet gave them constant companionship, and there was total dependency, then they start to realize that’s why they’re grieving so intensely,” she said.

Rearranging my life
It’s true that I spent so much time taking care of Red, and Gromit before him, that when each one died it didn’t merely leave a hole in my single-person household; it was as if someone had rearranged my life, excising without my permission many of the rituals that had governed it.

Over the course of 13 years, for instance, the same thing would happen with Gromit every morning. I would sit on my bed to put on my shoes, and he would drape himself across my lap. I would scratch his butt and he would reward me with a big sloppy kiss. Recently, I did the math: Accounting for the times I was traveling without him, this interaction happened more than 4,000 times.

So it makes sense that when he died, it was months before I could touch my shoelaces without expecting to also touch him. And I had no idea what to do with my mornings without my pooch to require that small gesture of me.

About nine months after Gromit died, once I knew I didn’t want to replace him but just wanted to consider getting another dog, I signed up as an occasional foster parent at a no-kill shelter in Dupont Circle. My first assignment, Red, was a living, breathing refutation of the portrayal of Dobermans as vicious guard dogs in such movies as “Hugo” and the animated classic “Up.” The first time he ambled over to me when I was sitting on the couch in my apartment and lay his head across my lap so I could stroke his snout, I knew I’d adopt him.
And for the two months I lived in that apartment after he died, the couch never seemed so empty, nor the place so quiet.

Keeping it simple

My relationships with Red, Gromit and Consuela (the cat who has survived them both) have been, for lack of a better word, simple. Or at least simpler than that with my sister — but especially simpler than that with my father, with whom I had constant conflicts over religion and sexuality, and whose love and support seemed to always have strings attached.

Barker echoes the idea that the unconditional, nonjudgmental love offered up by animals — “they’re just happy you’re there” — can make it especially hard to lose them. Were these losses more difficult because I was living alone? Some studies suggest that just as pets can ease loneliness, especially among single people, it can be harder for us when they’re gone.

And then there is the suddenness factor. Former president Bill Clinton told Newsweek in 2002 that the death of his dog, Buddy, who was hit by a car, was “by far the worst thing” that Clinton had experienced after leaving the White House. Barker says that not having time to prepare for the pet’s death “usually makes it more intense” and that something like an accident can add a layer of traumatic stress, especially if the owner witnesses it.

She might as well have been talking about me. Gromit’s battle with cancer at age 13 was short, but at least I spent the last few weeks of his life preparing for it. I held him when the vet put him down, and it was horrible, but I knew he was as comfortable as possible — and that having me there was part of his comfort.

At age 7, Red had been otherwise healthy when he started wheezing one day last October. The vet thought he had allergies and advised me to return if he didn’t get better within a couple of weeks. Two weeks later, a chest X-ray showed a mild pneumonia, and the vet sent Red and me home with antibiotics that she hoped Red would respond to within a few days. I gave him a dose at about 1 p.m. and went to work; when I returned that evening, he was dead.

‘I’m sorry’
It’s too painful to describe the extent of my immediate reaction, or really the reactions that unfolded over the following days, weeks and even months. But I will say that when Gromit was dying, I kept repeating the words, “Thank you.” In Red’s case, too late for him to hear, I kept repeating, “I’m sorry.”

The fact that our pets are so dependent on us makes it all too easy to second-guess our decisions and descend into a pit of guilt. Shouldn’t I have known? Did I do everything I could? If I had just . . . what? Taken him to the vet sooner? Insisted he be hospitalized? What if I had been home? I might not have been able to save him, but at least in his last moments he would have known I was with him, and maybe that would have made it a little easier for him if not for me.

In “The Year of Magical Thinking,” Joan Didion refers to grief as passive and mourning as active. Sure enough, when I talked to Kathy Reiter, who leads monthly pet-loss support groups in Alexandria and Fairfax County, she eventually (in true therapist style) turned the conversation to my experience, asking what I’d done — actively — to help myself with this process. It occurred to me that I needed to sit around and cry a little less and to grieve, publicly, a little more.

That’s easier said than done. A few weeks after Red died, some friends from the dog park suggested we have a get-together in his memory. I was grateful for the suggestion, but as I came in and exchanged hugs, I felt a bit sheepish when I pulled out the box of Red’s ashes and a recent photo and set them up on the table. Maybe it was my imagination, but I got the feeling that even friends who had gathered for just this purpose would rather say just a quick “I’m sorry; how are you doing?” than truly acknowledge the elephant — or the Doberman — in the room. It wasn’t until a couple of hours and several drinks later that we finally told a few stories about him.

More than just a dog

Thankfully, many of my closest friends, family members and co-workers have been wonderfully sympathetic, and for that I’m grateful. Others have seemed reluctant to talk about my grief, and I suspect that it’s because they’re trying to stay in denial about the prospect of losing their own animal or trying not to remember the death of a previous one. My least-favorite reaction comes from those who are aiming to be supportive but regularly ask me when I’m going to adopt another dog, a reaction that seems tantamount to saying, “Get over it already. He was just a dog. Isn’t one as good as another?”

That can lead to what psychologists refer to as disenfranchised grief.

“Simply stated, many people (including pet owners) feel that grief over the death of a pet is not worthy of as much acknowledgment as the death of a person,” researchers wrote in a 2003 article in the journal Professional Psychology: Research and Practice. “Unfortunately, this tends to inhibit 
people from grieving fully when a pet dies.”

Two months after Red died, I’ve had a change of scenery, moving to my sister Rebekah’s home in southern Maine to work on book projects for a year. Here, my sister and brother-in-law’s gregarious chocolate Lab, Maya, helps keep me company and reminds me that eventually, probably sometime next year, I’ll be ready to adopt again. Meanwhile, Red’s ashes sit in a beautiful carved wooden box on a shelf in my bedroom, right in front of a beautiful drawing that a colleague’s son made for me after Red died. Those artifacts have helped, but I’ve needed something more.

My sources for this article noticed the answer before I did: I’m a writer, and I need to process my grief by writing, so that’s what I’m doing. Reiter admitted that her own work helping others who have lost animals was partly as a tribute to her cat, Prince, who died at the ripe old age of 23, but also as a way to validate and work through her own grief. By writing about Red, she said, “you are doing what I did: It’s self-serving, but it’s a tribute, and it’s a catharsis for you. You want to capture the memories, so you don’t forget.”

There’s one more task ahead of me. Five years ago I buried Gromit’s ashes in the woods outside Rebekah’s house, along with his collar, a note, a photo of us together and one of his favorite things: a bagel. The headstone says, “Thank you.” Red’s box, meanwhile, went up on the shelf when I got here in January, partly because the ground was frozen solid.

The days are getting longer, though. The ground has thawed. I’ve been looking at headstones and, more important, composing the words that will go on Red’s.

Yonan, the Post’s Food and Travel editor, is on book leave. 
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Joe Yonan is the Food and Dining editor of The Washington Post and the author of "Eat Your Vegetables: Bold Recipes for the Single Cook." He writes the Food section's Weeknight Vegetarian column.


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Tuesday, July 12, 2016

NYC Nurse Behind Powerful Protest Picture

NYC Nurse Behind Powerful Protest Picture
who traveled to Baton Rouge to march
for ‘a better future for her son’
speaks out after night in jail

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By  Chris Pleasance and Jenny Stanton For Dailymail.com: July  10, 2016
  • Woman who was captured in iconic arrest photo from Baton Rouge has been revealed as 28-year-old Ieshia Evans
  • Evans, a licensed practical nurse and mother to a five-year-old son, was attending her first protest on Saturday
  • Friends told Dailymail.com that she was arrested as police tried to push demonstrators back from their building
  • Evans found their actions unjust, as the protest was peaceful, so crossed her arms and stared them down
  • She was held for 24 hours but has now been released and is recovering in a hotel room before traveling home

It is the photo seen around the world: A young woman in a flowing dress standing with her arms crossed facing down a line of heavily armed police while two armored officers rush forward to put her in handcuffs.

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A picture of an unarmed young black woman in a long dress, standing calmly in front of two police officers in full riot gear who arrest her during a Black Lives Matter protest has awed social media. Users called the image “legendary” and “symbolic.”    

The powerful photo was taken by Reuters photographer Jonathan Bachman during the Black Lives Matter rally in the city of Baton Rouge, Louisiana. People had gathered to protest police brutality following the shooting of African-American Alton Sterling.

It’s a photo that is being labeled “iconic” and “legendary,” and will more than likely serve as an anchor in the modern civil rights movement.

“I photographed someone arguing with an officer and then I looked over my shoulder and saw her there and she had every intention of not moving,” Bachman told BuzzFeed News. “She just stood there and made her stand. I was just happy to be able to capture something like that.”
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If you ever had to wonder what it means to fearlessly exude Black Girl Magic, here you go.

Ieshia Evans, 28, a mother and licensed practical nurse from New York, who was attending her first protest when she was arrested.
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Natasha Haynes said Evans, a lifelong friend, traveled to Baton Rouge, Louisiana, following the shooting of Alton Sterling because she 'wanted a better future for her five-year-old son’.

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*    Read more:   'Gorgeous, legendary’: Black woman in flowing dress facing police in Baton Rouge wows social media  

*   Read more:   http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3683863/Woman-icon-Baton-Rouge-mother-five-year-old-son-attending-protest-wants-better-future-him.html


Whatever way you look at it, she wins

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